I had a tough past couple of weeks recently. As I was traveling last week, every time I started to have a negative or hopeless thought, I stopped and looked up. Because I love photos and capturing moments, I snapped a pic of the ceilings that were around me. & I literally said to myself … More Don’t forget to look up Nikki
When you are healing, you have to learn to get comfortable in being uncomfortable. That’s the only way to the other side. Deeply beautiful, raw & consuming emotions will come. Let them + process them. That’s the only way to really heal. The process is not linear-meaning there will be times of sadness & joy. … More Navigating through love & loss. Can they coexist?
Have you ever had something happen in your life and it feels like it’s the absolute worst thing ever? Then another situation occurs and you’re like, “Really God, for real for real?!” Because when you say it twice, it means that much more. Later everything you knew about faith and letting God handle situations goes … More Faith over feelings… let them out.
You read it right. I’m a divorcee, yep. Again. Now. Wait. Am I really writing this? Out loud? Publicly? Ah yeah. I’m doing it. I didn’t start this blog to write about nicety-nice things. But not just for me, for the woman that is just as confused, sad, tired, shamed or (seemingly) defeated, & sometimes … More I’m a divorcee.. again. & today I’m sad.
It’s been a while since I’ve blogged, so it’s gonna be off the cuff and pretty raw. I was reading about the death of Fashion designer Kate Spade yesterday and her completion of suicide; I noticed the more that I read, the more triggered I became. One article I came across stated “Kate Spade struggled … More Mental health: Pay attention to the things people don’t say.
Today a I found a gem of a song called “Cycles” by Jonathan McReynolds (click here to listen) 👇🏽 https://youtu.be/0Eu2aYgWmVA “Didn’t I conquer this? Last year? Tell me what I missed. Because I fear it’s coming back again… help me in these cycles” are the opening lines. The song is speaking about spiritual attacks from … More Cycles: The life ride no one wants to talk about
The more I speak candidly about #depression, the more I realize how necessary the conversation is. 4 months ago, I wrote a blog piece for Minority Mental health awareness month about depression in the black Christian community and how it is often dismissed. I was then asked to be a guest on a local radio … More Dear depression, thank you.
I am a Black Woman. I am a Christian. I am a Nurse. I also have clinically diagnosed Depression. I have wanted to write a piece on these four things for a while now. But unfortunately I still succumb to the stigma of it being a taboo subject as well. One less subject talked about … More I have depression; don’t tell me to just pray about it.
My face is full. My hair is short. I would rather be singing than sitting at a desk. I am more introverted than I’ve ever been in life. I overthink on most days. I could meditate more instead of doing so… I could worship more. I could pray more. And although I was a “church … More Don’t fix me, help me accept me.
Strength bearers. Nurturers. Exponential lovers. Unmatched. Nothing is synonymous. In the midst of all that we possess, we have to remember to take care of what’s most important… That woman. You. Be good to yourself.